Monday, August 30, 2010

About the parboiling

First of all let me tell everyone that I was totally against him going on the roof. I have been doing the roof projects for a long time now and I could not stop him. I asked him why he felt he needed to do it and the response was He needed to prove to himself that he was still able to do things like this. So we put on his tennis shoes for better grip and tucked in his pants legs and boy did he look ducky. And he did not go up very high just a couple of feet and as the water came down the roof he remembered that the roof was warm and so was his behind. I guess what the point of all this is, is even though they have this coming on they want to feel useful around the house and that they need to feel wanted and needed. Joe still does things around the house. He has his daily routine, feed the fish, bird and take out the recyclable stuff piled up on the counter. He has taken over doing the towels once a week and heaven help us if we interfere. (He takes them out of the dryer and puts them on so he can warm up). So if your loved one or patient can do some chores around the house let them as long as they do not pose a danger to themselves or others. I am sure there are some things they can do such as feeding animals or folding laundry. You will figure it out. But the roof is probably a bad idea. Joe won't be going up there again.
Take care
Lynn

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Good morning Lynn and Joe. I can certainly relate to this situation. Unfortunately, memory is not the only effect of this disease but also logic,reasoning, and EGO are noticably effected. We have one and a half acres of lawn which we have a good sized tractor for mowing. My husband refuses to allow me to mow with the tractor and always says that I wouldn't be able to handle it. The truth is I used to do the mowing with the tractor but he claims that he doesn't remember that I ever did. The truth has come out that he really feels it is the one thing he still does and doesn't want me taking over it. We have fought and fought over this over recent years now and I can't seem to win. His abilities to maneuver and control the tractor are noticably impared but I still cannot get him to concede to allow me to do the mowing. He is aware that he has problems with doing the mowing and procrastinates just as long as he possibly can. The best plan that I have come up with is to use the hand mower to cut the two areas that are potentially dangerous with the tractor. When I first started doing this he even continued to take the tractor over the same areas that I had already mowed just because he resented the idea that I felt it was something he could no longer do. I just can't seem to get across to him that just having him safe and uninjured by my side day after day is so much more important to me than him proving to himself that he can still do certain things. I think we could all benefit from hearing from others who have faced these challenges and how they were able to successfully navigate through these types of situations. Thank God Joe's experience was his parboiled fanny and not a fall from the roof! I pray that my husband's experience will only be damage to his tractor and not to his body.
May God bless us and guide us through our journey of life, whatever it brings our way!