Saturday, July 24, 2010

talking it out

Joe just told me about the lady in the previous post. So here's to helping her at least dog paddle. Joe does not talk alot about how he is feeling anymore and as he puts it I nag. It is not so much nagging but wanting in to his thoughts so I can understand what he is thinking and how he is feeling. Yes I know he does not know what he is thinking alot of the times but when he does it is really good. So I am relegated to asking only once a say certain questions such as "what's on your brain?" To which the answer is usually mud, eh, or I forget. I have to ask specifically about how he is feeling to a body part. If I ask in general I can only ask once a day. So if I know his fingers hurt or his head hurts I ask specific questions. I also have learned how to ask the same question in different ways but he is catching on. So he will ask me if I have already asked that for the day. And don't be afraid to say hey it's not my fault I am here for you but let me in once in a while. I need to know how he is feeling so that I am prepared to help with either just holding his hand or letting him be on his own. Even though they have this problem going on in their heads they still need alone time too.
Hope this helps a little.
Lynn
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